Life sometimes presents us with challenges that can feel overwhelming. Whether it's a virus, an economic downturn or a health crisis, we can lose our balance in unprecedented situations. Regardless of what you are facing, this guide will help you get your bearings by showing you how to stay present, use your inner resources and ultimately turn any adversity into the stepping stones to your future success.
1. Our human potential
Freud differentiated between the ego (our identity), the Id (our subconscious drives) and the Superego (our inner critic). The first step in freeing ourselves is to become conscious of any critical reprimands and limitations and replace them with our own positive affirmations. When we are born, we can learn any language, adjust to any culture, acquire any skills. The world is our oyster. As we grow older, we get conditioned by our environment. We learn from our parents what is acceptable behaviour and we take on their beliefs about who we are supposed to be. Unless we question our programming, we forget our true nature, our real self.
The Superego & Self-images
As babies we need to be mirrored to thrive. Our caregivers will reward us for attitudes and behaviours that
correspond to their ideals. We develop self-images, which need to be understood and need to be released if we want to live our full potential.
YOUR CRYSTAL: SHUNGITE
Use Shungite to release old patterns and negative attitudes that hold you back. Especially the fear of loss, harm or isolation can be transformed into new growth and revolutions. This crystal will also connect you with ancient wisdoms and guide you on the right path.
Becoming aware of conditioning, letting go of old patterns and working with the Superego and the self-images require a commitment to self-nurturing. We need to rest well, look after our nutrition, and seek emotional support whenever necessary. It requires a multi-pronged approach to stay on track.
Inner work takes strength and stamina. Unless your body has the necessary fuel and hydration, you won't be able to support your deconditioning. The most effective form of 'diet' is based on muscle-testing. Use kinesiology to check what your body needs and wants.
Long-lasting changes require alertness to the triggers that re-initiate the old grooves. A therapist who can teach you EFT (Emotional Freedom technique) will empower you to overcome the pull to re-engage with
previous scripts and to replace them with new ones.
YOUR CRYSTAL: ROSE QUARTZ
If you are going through difficult times, wear a piece of jewelry made of Rose Quartz to find your inner balance again. It is a close friend that will offer emotional support. Its gentle, nurturing energy will allow you to be forgiving of any perceived mistakes you may have made.
3. Increase Awareness
All change is based on awareness. Our thoughts, emotional responses, physical patterns are the results of decades of conditioning. They have become automatic. Automatisms can only be undone through constant
BE AWARE OF WHAT IS
The first step in gaining more freedom and choice is to name the situation as it is. What thoughts do you think? What beliefs do you hold dear? Where do they come from? Do they serve or undermine you in achieving your potential?
BE AWARE OF WHAT MIGHT BE
Become clear of who you want to be. Remind yourself what life will look like when you have established new ways of thinking, being and doing. Hold the new you in your meditations and visualisations. Consciously replace the old you with the new you.
YOUR CRYSTAL: FUCHSITE
Your Fuchsite reminds you of our invisible wings that want to spread and fly away from the burden of drama and hardship. Being associated with angels and fairies, Fuchsite supports the soul in becoming authentic and wise. It balances being there for others with being there for yourself.
There are many theories about fulfilling your potential but the danger is that they remain wishful thoughts that don't make the transition to full embodiment. Unless you change physiologically, the stylus will
remain stuck on your vinyl and play the same old track over and over again.
The antidote to staying stuck in wishful thinking is in movement. Take one of your new affirmations and get moving. Dance it, bike it, run it, walk it, swim it. Whatever works for you, repeat your new commandment while moving. It cements the new you into your body.
We cannot change if we eat what we used to eat, drink what we used to drink, and do what we used to do. Cleansing is vital. Nourish your body by doing fasts. Make more juices or smoothies. Do a liver cleanse. Try dry-brushing, Epsom salt baths and follow Wim Hof.
YOUR CRYSTAL: SELENITE
Selenite is a cleansing stone because it ensures a positive flow of vibrations and quickly removes negative energy from the body. Move your selenite from the top of your head to your feet. You’ll have a restored sense of balance and the protection of a white light that connects you to the universe.
5. Value your grit
It's the grit that makes the pearl. We are conditioned to think that easy circumstances are preferable. But how can we develop the precious pearl of our true being if life is a bed of roses (without thorns)? Dirt, sand, and grit make the biggest, most valuable pearls. Welcome the challenges that allow you to grow.
FALL AND GET UP
How many times do toddlers have to topple over before they learn to walk? As we transform ourselves, we might need to dust ourselves off and try again. If you take another baby step after a failure, you are not the same person anymore because now you have learnt something that will inform the next move forward.
The path develops in the walking. The new you might feel like unchartered territory. You might have a rough map but ultimately it is the GPS system in your heart that will guide you. Make one step towards the real you, and the real you will make ten to meet you. Whatever your aim, just keep walking towards it.
YOUR CRYSTAL: OPAL
If you long to express your full potential, enhance your physical appearance with a piece of jewelry made of Opal. An Opal will allow you to be creative, let go of some deep-seated fears and inhibitions and invite you to be spontaneous. Opals are very protective and can be programmed to make you less vulnerable to others.